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Lesbian Defeats Male Boss Who Demoted Her

As usual, good news found on eroticlesbianromance!

Lesbian Running for S.C. Sheriff Defeats Male Boss Who Demoted Her

With her win in Charleston County, Kristin Graziano becomes South Carolina’s first woman and first out gay sheriff.

To me, this isn’t a case of Democrat or Republican, it’s a case of a wrong being righted, or karma being a b*tch! Candice Christian


Kristin Graziano has been elected the first woman and first out gay sheriff in South Carolina, ousting an incumbent who’d been in office since 1988.

Graziano, a Democrat, beat Republican Al Cannon in Tuesday’s race for sheriff of Charleston County, which is the third most populous county in the state and includes the city of Charleston. The vote was 52 percent to 48 percent, The Post and Courier reports.

“I think the people of Charleston are ready for a change,” she said at a press conference Wednesday, according to the paper. “When you look at the voting totals, we crossed party lines. This is not straight ticket Democrat-Republican. This is what people wanted.”

“Graziano campaigned on a promise of accountability, reform and forging bonds with all communities,” The Post and Courier notes.

She plans to conduct booth a financial audit and a racial bias audit of the Charleston County Sheriff’s Office. Cannon has called the racial bias office a waste of money. She also wants to diversify the department’s ranks.

“First we need to put people in the community that look like the community, and we need to work on our diversity and our inclusion,” she said at the press conference. “I’m confident. We have incredible, dedicated officers in Charleston County currently serving. I’ve spoken to many of them already, and I’m very confident that we are going to make some very good headway in the first 100 days.”

Graziano has worked in law enforcement for 32 years, 18 of them with the Charleston County Sheriff’s Office. She has been a member and trainer of SWAT teams, worked in antiterrorism efforts, and developed a model for responding to school shooter scenarios. She was won several awards. But Cannon placed her on leave in February when he learned she planned to run for sheriff.

She had the endorsement of the LGBTQ Victory Fund, South Carolina Equality, and several prominent individuals, including Jaime Harrison, who ran against Lindsey Graham for U.S. senator from South Carolina.

Graziano is one of two lesbian sheriffs elected this year, the other being Charmaine McGuffey in Hamilton County, Ohio. They are among just a handful of LGBTQ+ candidates elected to such posts; their predecessors include Texans Margo Frasier and Lupe Valdez.

“Not only are these wins historic, but they’re a sign of positive change in law enforcement spaces,” a Victory Fund blog post notes of Graziano and McGuffey. “Both Charmaine and Kristin took on an old-boys network that thrived on abuse. Both women made police and prison reform pillars of their campaigns and have pledged to create more inclusive departments while increasing community outreach. And both spoke about how being a lesbian and a woman will make them better leaders. We’re thrilled they’ve won!”

High Point to Bleak Year

Megan Rapinoe, Sue Bird Get Engaged, Signal High Point to Bleak Year

The lesbian sports icons have news.

The onslaught of bad news has been never-ending in 2020. We do not deny this. But if there’s one group of people who we can count on to do us a solid time after time, it’s lesbians. Thankfully, they’ve done it again.


Sports icons Megan Rapinoe and Sue Bird have today announced their engagement after four years of being together. As the phrase goes, a picture is worth a thousand words. As such, Bird posted a photo to Instagram of Rapinoe on a knee, putting a ring on Bird’s finger in a pool. The pair comprise one of the biggest power couples in sports at the moment and have gotten engagement a little under a year after the marriage of another lesbian sports power couple: Ashlyn Harris and Ali Krieger. The two couples are friends as Rapinoe was a part of the Harris-Krieger wedding.

The news comes just weeks after Bird won her fourth WNBA championship with the Seattle Storm. That victory stamped Bird with an unprecedented status as the first person to win four WNBA championships in four decades. Only two NBA players have done the same in their league. But Bird has also won four Olympic gold medals laying for Team USA, four FIBA World Cup Titles and five EuroLeague Championships.

Of course she’s not the only star player of the relationship. Rapinoe was named Best FIFA Women’s Player in 2019, and won gold at the 2012 Summer Olympics, 2015 FIFA Women’s World Cup and 2019 FIFA Women’s World Cup. She also won the Golden Boot and Golden Ball awards at that latter championship and notably led the decision for the U.S. national women’s soccer team to not visit the White House given its occupant, Donald Trump.

Rapinoe is set to release her memoir, One Life, on November 10, 2020.

(Again proudly copied from EroticLesbianRomance. Thanks, sweetie, for posting!)

Elisabeth Moss-Handmaid’s Tale Star- Cast as Bi Former Rep Katie Hill — Drama Erupts

eroticlesbianromance  October 7, 2020 2 Minutes

The announcement of a new movie based on the former Congresswoman was just made but Hill’s Congressional Twitter account has come out against it.


OCTOBER 07 2020 12:23 PM EDT

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Emmy and Golden Globe winner Elisabeth Moss is set to play bisexual former Congresswoman Katie Hill in a streaming movie adaptation of her memoir for Blumhouse. And while that may be good news for Moss fans everywhere, not everyone is excited. Hill’s old congressional account immediately tweeted out against the film and the depiction of Hill’s story.

Deadline broke the news that Moss is set to star as Hill in a story that chronicles the young politician’s election to Congress as a complete newcomer, quick ascension to power and notoriety, and her fall from grace after a conservative website published nude pictures of her and revealed she had a relationship with a campaign staffer while married to her ex-husband, whom she says was abusive and she was estranged from him at the time. Hill said that the photos were released as a part of a smear campaign orchestrated by her ex-husband, Kenney Heslep who at the time was pushing for spousal support in their ongoing divorce proceedings.

News of the movie, based on Hill’s book She Will Rise: Becoming a Warrior in the Battle for True Equality, didn’t even have time to get cold before the Representative’s former congressional Twitter account slamming Moss, Blumhouse, and Hill for ignoring a large part of the story, the part where Hill was not only a victim, but also a perpetrator of workplace abuse and harassment. The tweets were allegedly sent by former staff.

“This is an incredibly sensitive situation,” her staffers tweeted from Hill’s verified account, “We appreciate the instinct to defend our former boss, and LGBTQ+ woman who faced abuse from her husband.” “What happened to Katie Hill shouldn’t happen to anyone,” they continued. “But this moment requires more nuance, as Katie Hill’s story – our story – is also one of workplace abuse and harassment.”

In a 10-tweet thread, the former staffers went as far as to say “Katie Hill is not a hero for women,” and emphasized that she’s never been held accountable for what she calls her “mistakes.”

“Katie took advantage of her subordinates… many of whom were young women just beginning their careers in politics.” they also wrote. “wWe encourage everyone to reflect deeply before taking her word at face value.”

The former staffers acknowledge that Hill is also a survivor of abuse, but that workplace abuse and harassment “is never okay, even if your boss is a woman and/or a survivor.” They specifically tweeted their disappointment at Moss, Blumhouse, and Michael Seitzman (North Country), who is slated to write the movie.

On her personal Twitter, Hill responded to the allegations by saying her congressional account was hacked and that she reported it to Twitter. “Regardless of their author, the content of the hacked tweets is something I have talked about at length in my book, in podcasts and in countless interviews,” she wrote. “I look forward to continuing to have conversations around these issues and using my platform to support women in any way possible.”

So far, there has been no statement on the tweets from Moss, Seitzman, or Blumhouse, and it remains to be seen if the “hacked” tweets will be taken down. There is no news on when production was slated to begin, but it will likely be delayed by this controversy.

(Successfully kidnapped from Eroticlesbianromance.)


Weird title for a blog post?

Maybe. Yet it’s on my mind again.

It was the twitter handle of a very nice lady from Sweden. We became friends, I think, she and her girl. And suddenly the account was gone. Really gone as if it had never existed.

They had been talking about getting married this summer. Summer is over now.

Maybe someone knows them. I would really like to know if they are okay and if they got married. They had such a nice ceremony planned, which could still be possible despite the whole corona crap that’s still around.

So if you know, please drop me a line. Anonymously is fine. I just feel so bad about ‘losing’ them, without knowing why they canceled the account. If it was something I said or did.

Jannike loved riding horses and got a job at the local riding school. Maybe that rings a bell with anyone.

And this was her favorite song at the time.

Little big things

I have gotten my wife a present. It wasn’t anything she expected, which makes it an even better present.

It’s a house cleaner.

Okay, I didn’t order a person on Amazon, get me right, okay? I think people is something that Amazon doesn’t sell. But I had to do this.

Before the accident we did all house chores together, and now I’m in this chair so I can’t do stuff like cleaning the kitchen for real, or the bathroom and stuff like that.

I do make some money now, with the network auditor job, and I wanted to put that to good use, so I asked around and with some help I found a lady in the neighborhood who loves helping out with cleaning.

Now this lady comes over once a week, on Saturday, while Britt is out for the shopping stuff, and she will clean the house for us. Today was the first time and I hadn’t told Britt, so when she came home and found someone cleaning the bathroom, she was totally surprised. I explained how this happened and… OMG she cried…

She told me it was fine, that she didn’t mind doing all that, but I told her that I wanted this. It’s my money and I spend it how I want it, and this is good way.

The cleaning lady is happy with the extra money and I want Britt to be happy with less work in the house, because she is doing so much already. For us and for me, because I know I’m a lot of extra work for her. And yeah, she doesn’t mind, but…

Is this a big thing? A little thing? I dunno. But I had to do this. And it works out great. A present for my wife. Who I love very much.

Cynthia Nixon On Why She Identifies As ‘Queer’

(As usual, successfully stolen from

The Ratched star has been notoriously private about her identity. 


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Actress Cynthia Nixon confirmed she identifies as queer in a new interview with Attitude magazine.

The revelation comes two years after she was first asked if she identified as queer. At the time she was mum about, telling a reporter simply, “It’s personal.” Now, she says that she’s had time to reflect, explaining that lesbian, gay, or bisexual never seemed “particularly right” for her.

“To say ‘queer’ means, ‘I’m over there, I don’t have to go into the nuances of my sexuality with you,’” said Nixon, who began dating her now-wife, Christine Marinoni, in 2004, after splitting from her husband of 15 years. “Falling in love with my wife was one of the great delights and surprises of my life, but it didn’t seem like I became a whole new person, or like some door had been unlocked.”

“It was like, ‘I have fallen in love with different people in my life and they’ve all been men before. Now, this is a woman and she is amazing,’” she reflects. “So I feel like ‘queer’ is an umbrella term, and it includes my formerly straight self, too.”

Discussions about gender identity and expression have been a hot topic at Nixon and Marinoni’s dinner table. Her eldest child, Samuel, identifies as transgender. Nixon has also been actively protesting on the streets against white supremacy and police brutality, having attended the Queer Liberation March in June as well as the Black Lives Matter protests.

“I feel like there are certain issues that the right wing seizes on again and again,” she said. “They won’t let go of abortion. They seem to have let go of a lot of the anti-gay rhetoric and antigay actions, but as they have sort of accepted gayness, they have focused on trans people, and on immigrants and on people of color.”

Nixon famously ran to be the Democratic nominee for governor of New York in 2018. This month, she is returning to the small screen in Ryan Murphy’s new Netflix series Ratched (premiering September 18), opposite Sarah Paulson’s Nurse Mildred Ratched.

In the series, Nixon plays Gwendolyn Briggs, a lesbian who is not out publicly and who begins a close relationship with Mildred.

“It’s a really peculiar thing, how much they [radical conservatives] try to separate us as a community,” she said. “But [after marriage equality] we saw a great divide in our own community, too, between those who thought, ‘I got my wedding ring, I can pass my money on to my spouse and not pay taxes, so I’m good, I’m done’, as opposed to, ‘We have so far to go for so many members of our community, we are still so far from the promised land, we’re so far from having our full civil rights.’”

“Trans people are a case in point, but also young, queer people of whatever stripe who are still, were being, tossed out of their homes and are living on the streets, many engaging in sex work to survive,” added Nixon, who formerly supported Bernie Sanders as president but is now fully on board the Biden/Harris train.

“I’m really hopeful that we will all turn out in November, because we have to. We have to do it for our country and we have to do it for our planet.”

Lesbian wrestlers smashing stereotypes and changing the wrestling game

Found on EroticLesbianRomance. Follow them. They post good stuff. 🙂


16 MAR 2019

Like most competitive sports, seeing openly LGBTI wrestlers can be a rare occurrence.

But that’s all slowly changing.

There are a handful of LGBTI wrestlers making waves in the wrestling game, smashing stereotypes, and living their lives out and proud.

  • Sonya Deville

Sonya Deville (real name Daria Rae Berenato) is an American professional wrestler for World Wrestling Entertainment’s (WWE) SmackDown brand, although she started out in Raw.

The 25-year-old wrestler made her professional wrestling debut in December 2015 in WWE’s developmental brand NXT.

In 2017, she formed a trio with wrestlers Mandy Rose and Paige, known as Absolution.

Although Paige retired from wrestling in April 2018, Deville still wrestles alongside Mandy Rose. She’s also competed in big wrestling events, like Royal Rumble and Survivor Series.

Deville came out as a lesbian on national television four years ago during a televised Tough Enough competition.

‘Mandy and I were both on the show,’ she recalled to Sky Sports. ‘During the preliminary taping of the first premiere episode, they asked me if I was in a relationship.

‘I had a girlfriend at the time,’ she said.

Deville then explained: ‘I thought “What do I do… well, tell the truth, right?” So I said, “Yeah, I have a girlfriend, but she’s not my wife yet”.

‘I got nervous, and they all started smiling.

‘I said “Oh my god, I just came out on national television”. And Triple H replied, “Yeah you did!”

On why coming out is important, she said: ‘If you’re scared to do it, my advice would be do it, because it was the best thing that ever happened.’

  • Nyla Rose

Washington-born Nyla Rose (aka Nyla the Destroyer) actually started out as an actress.

She starred in the 2016 Canadian television comedy series The Switch as the lead character. Rose played a Native American IT manager who comes out as a trans woman and has to rebuild her life after losing her job and her apartment as a result of her announcement.

The show aired six episodes over one season.

Just last month, Rose made history by becoming the first transgender person to sign onto a major wrestling league.

All Elite Wrestling (AEW) made the announcement on 7 February and Rose confirmed the news on Twitter by posting a photo of the AEW logo, with the caption: ‘Oh it’s true alright.’

But it wasn’t all smooth sailing, with Nyla Rose getting into a heated argument with Kylie Ray on stage:

Kylie Ray vs. Nyla

The transgender wrestler has won the Warriors Of Wrestling Women’s Championship twice, the Covey Promotions Women’s Championship three times and the United Pro Wrestling Association Women’s Championship once.

  • Paige

Paige (real name Saraya-Jade Bevis) is an English professional wrestler, making her debut at the age of 13.

She signed on with WWE in 2011 and debuted on their main roster in 2014. In her debut match, she won the Divas Championship, becoming the youngest champion in the title’s history at the age of 21.

Paige quickly became one to watch, winning several big titles throughout her professional wrestling career. She’s also amassed a huge online following, with over 5.3 million followers on Instagram to date.

She announced her retirement from in-ring wrestling in April 2018, but then became the general manager of SmackDown. At the end of last year, she stepped down from the position, but remains in the show.

Alongside her wrestling career, Paige joined the cast of Total Divas – an American reality television show on the lives of female professional wrestlers.

During one of the episodes, fellow WWE colleague Rosa Mendes kissed Paige, who then revealed she’s bisexual.

As the cast were discussing if they’ve kissed girls in the past, Paige said: ‘I feel like it’s ok to do these days. It’s like the 21st century – I’m not very fussy.’

Mendes responds: ‘So you have been with a girl then?’

Then Paige replies: ‘Well yeah, it’s the 21st century – I just said that.’

Paige said she doesn’t discriminate between genders when it comes to finding love. She is currently dating rock band Falling in Reverse frontman Ronnie Radke.

  • Kris Wolf

Kris Wolf (real name Kris Hernandez) is a Chicago-born professional wrestler. She spent her childhood years in New Jersey, but eventually settled in San Francisco before moving to Japan to be an English teacher in Tokyo.

After a year and a half of teaching, she entered a competition to start joshi puroresu – a popular form of professional wrestling in Japan. She signed with World Wonder Ring Stardom.

Over the next four years, she won a couple of championships, including the High Speed Championship and the Alternative Wrestling Show Women’s World Championship.

In January this year, Wolf posted to Twitter about her wedding to her wife.

‘I found my human,’ she wrote on Twitter. ‘She makes me feel like existence is slightly less terrifying. Thank you, universe.

‘P.S. All of my in-laws are tall Vikings. The universe has quite a sense of humor,’ she tweeted.

Last month, Wolf announced her latest tour will be her last and she’ll retire due to injuries.


YES! It’s happening!

My new book is going out on Amazon!

Kyria Cover

This is my superhero story. I can’t believe I am putting out another book… And making a mistake doing it. On Amazon I messed up my own last name. Leave that to Macey, guys. Drop me your name if you want it screwed up sideways hahaha

I’ll scream again once I have a link for you guys. And it will be in Kindle Unlimited too.

Young queer women don’t like Lesbian as a name…here’s why.

Another good one stolen from Romantic Lesbian Erotica:

I know, this is in fact a dated repost, but with the way the craziness of 2020 has spun out of control, it’s time to look at relevant issues that sometimes get pushed aside during times like this. 

This is a piece from Slate which is actually a reprint of an older OUTWARD article. I have posted several pieces from OUTWARD and they are all top-notch.


For Many Young Queer Women, Lesbian Offers a Fraught Inheritance



Some years ago, a close friend and I developed a not-so-subtle code for queer women too basic for our tastes: We’d make an “L” with our thumbs and forefingers against our foreheads, like the loser sign that was popular when we were in middle school. In this case, the “L” stood for lesbian.

We, too, were lesbians—generally speaking. But the women my friend and I mocked (and trust, I am duly shamed by this memory) were what we’d call “capital-L lesbians.” We were urban-dwelling and queer-identified and in our 20s; the other women came from the suburbs, skewed older, and were, we presumed, unversed in queer politics. We traveled in circles of dapper butches and subversive femmes; the other women either easily passed as straight or dressed generically sporty in cargo shorts and flip-flops. A woman in this category was clearly down with the assimilationist, trans-exclusive politics of the likes of the Human Rights Campaign. She was the kind of dyke for whom the laughable niche Cosmopolitan lesbian-sex tip “tug on her ponytail” might actually apply.

In other words, we shared a common sexual orientation, but little, if any, cultural affiliation. In the space between “lesbian” and “queer,” my friend and I located a world of difference in politics, gender presentation, and cosmopolitanism. Some of our resistance to the term lesbian arose, no doubt, from internalized homophobic notions of lesbians as unfashionable, uncultured homebodies. We were convinced that our cool clothes and enlightened, radical paradigm made us something other than lesbians, a label chosen by progenitors who lived in a simpler time with stricter gender boundaries. But with a time-honored label comes history and meaning; by leaving lesbian behind, we were rejecting, in part, a strong identity and legacy that we might have claimed as our own. While all identities are a product of their respective historical moments, starting from scratch is a daunting prospect. And so we’re left in a gray area of nomenclature, searching for threads of unity in our pluralism, wondering what, if any, role lesbian can play in a future that’s looking queerer by the day.

Cultural connotations aside, the main reason my friend and I felt (and still feel) more comfortable with queer than lesbian was practical: The word lesbian, insofar as it means a woman who is primarily attracted to women, does not correctly describe our reality. My personal queer community comprises cisgender and transgender women; transgender men and transmasculine people; and people who identify as non-binary or genderqueer. One friend told me queer works better for her and her female spouse because lesbian implies a kind of sameness she doesn’t see in her relationship or those of her peers. In her circles, as in mine, most romantic partnerships lean butch-femme or involve at least one trans or genderqueer person. Many of us have had or are currently enmeshed in sexual or romantic relationships with people who aren’t women. Using lesbian to refer to my queer sphere (e.g. “She’s hosting a lesbian potluck!”) excludes many people I consider my peers. In most young, urban queer communities, at least, lesbian, in its implication of a cisgender woman to cisgender woman arrangement, is both inaccurate and gauche.

But then, it’s hard to organize around a community without a name. I co-host monthly queer tea-dance parties in the warmer months, and my partners and I have struggled to promote our event to our desired audience. We called it a “ladies’ tea dance” for the first few years; one of my fellow co-hosts was a well-known trans guy in the community, and we thought his leadership would be enough to make it clear that anyone with social connections to queer women would be welcome, too. When some transgender attendees told us that the “ladies” terminology felt exclusive, we agreed, and started using the word queer on its own. But in D.C., as in most places, queer parties that get labeled without a gender often default to gay men, who crowd the rest of us off the dance floor. And while we’d never turn away cis gay men (one of our favorite guest DJs is one), I believe it’s important to carve out spaces that explicitly focus on women, especially as lesbian bars and publications shutter en masse. Basically, we wanted to promote our party to women—plus all queer or trans people who aren’t cisgender men.

Unfortunately, there’s no word for that. So my peers and I have found ourselves using the phrase not cis men to describe the makeup of our friend groups, political identity groups, and the people we want to come to our dance parties. It’s functional, but a bit hollow: There’s a feeling of being uprooted from time, place, and meaning that comes with defining ourselves by what we are not. Lesbian has a rich political and social history; not cis men establishes our identities quite literally on someone else’s terms. It gives cis men power and presence, assets they already disproportionately control, in conversations that have nothing to do with them. And it reaffirms cis male identity as the norm from which all others deviate. Not cis men is the non-white people to people of color.

That said, non-specificity is part of the appeal. Not cis men and queer are broad enough to include not only transgender and genderqueer people (and those who date them) but bi- and pansexual women who are often sidelined in lesbian society. Still, an increasing number of young people who are more or less straight are identifying as queer as a statement of political worldview rather than sexual orientationLesbian leaves no doubt that a woman’s sexual and romantic affinities run toward other women. In a world that preferences heterosexual pairings, lesbians face a very different reality than queers-in-name-only, giving the term the power of a blunt, plainspoken, unapologetic declaration. Sex and the City, funnily enough, neatly captured this debate way back in 1999. In one episode, a few art-world lesbians reject Charlotte’s attempts to insert herself into their cabal, telling her, “if you’re not going to eat pussy, you’re not a dyke.”

That seductively simple definition of dyke or lesbian would never fly in most circles of queer women today, attuned as we are to multiplicities of gender and genitals. But the male variation—“if you’re not going to suck cock, you’re not a faggot”—is less likely to raise hackles in the average clique of gay men. Where spaces that cater to lesbians and queer women are very likely to accommodate transgender and non-binary people, too, social gatherings of gay men are typically far less diverse, gender-wise. And our femininity-devaluing society leaves far more room for women than men to claim a fluid sexual orientation, meaning queer women are more likely to have current or former partners who aren’t women. That’s why it’s both easy and usually accurate to label circles of gay men as “gay men”—and why gay men are relatively free from the perpetual infighting over labels and politics that seems common among segments of queer women.


Some more ohm and OMG

So the ohmming goes well. So well even that I am tempted to actually call it meditation.

It surprises me. Hell, it even surprises Britt in more ways than one. First, she had never thought I would get it, and feel a benefit. Second, she had never thought she would feel a benefit. Isn’t that something wild?

It is exactly like Tonje said to me: If you keep at it for long enough, even you get it. (Tonje is our meditation teacher and professional ohm guru. I told her that and she loves the title!)

So yeah, Macey and Britt are meditating. Ohmming. Okay, ohmming sounds much cooler.

Then the OMG part. We got a new car!

Not this one and not a totally new one, but we got a 5 year old Prius Wagon. Light blue metallic with so many buttons in it that I will need the rest of the year to play with all of them!

It was about time. Our old Ford Mondeo has done over 200.000 km (some 125.000 miles) and the engine was making funny sounds at times. It also sometimes decided to stop for a breather which is not funny when there’s other traffic hopping about. Driving off in the Prius is crazy. You don’t hear a fucking thing. Also you don’t start it. You switch it on, and the dash is a nerd’s wet dream with all the stuff on the displays!

Last thing: 2 more days and then I am officially the one and only network auditor. Not sure yet how I feel about that now, but I know it’s gonna be fine.